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Why Is It Important to Talk About Gender and Gender Diversity in Early Childhood?

Nathanael Flynn, MA, Julie Nicholson, PhD

May 20, 2022

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Why is it important to talk about gender and gender diversity in early childhood?

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As we're thinking about this, we also want to ask, "Why is it important to start talking about gender and gender diversity in early childhood?" People often ask, "When is too soon?" People are worried that things will get too big and too intense too quickly. I think sometimes they're also worried about not knowing what to say. The reality is we're always talking with children about gender, whether that's what color your room is going to be and what clothes you're allowed to wear. Think about how much our choices can impact children's mobility and access, from a baby in a dress who can't crawl without falling on their face because the skirt gets caught under their knees to whether or not they're encouraged to go play in the mud, with the trucks, with the balls, or with the dolls. All of these experiences offer us help in understanding ourselves. This isn't an idea of making children into something. This is an idea of being thoughtful about who the child is, what they can access, and what choices we're making in terms of how we present and share the worlds that they live in. One of the things we do see is in research, which can be limited based on what we can see from children. It's often limited to expression so things get benchmarked a little later to when children can talk about things, particularly in those early years when they've got five or six words to begin with, which can be so hard to know. Figure 4 shows some of these milestones related to gender and gender identity.

AgeMilestones
1 year

Begin to categorize individuals by gender

18 months

Begin to show awareness of their gender identity

2 years

Communicate awareness that their gender identities are incompatible with their legal designation at birth

2 years

Begin to recognize gender stereotypes

2.5 years

Many have established their gender identity

4 years

Developed gender stereotypes informed by cultural messages about gender

Figure 1. Milestones regarding gender expansiveness in very young children.

We do see evidence by a year that children are categorizing individuals by gender, looking at what we call secondary sex characteristics. This is because most of the time they're interacting with people with clothes on, so the attribution is different than when you're born, such as voice, facial hair or no facial hair, haircuts, and clothing style. Kids are taking this in and making ideas. They're already doing gender attribution.

By 18 months, we can see kids showing awareness of their gender identity. Many children at a very young age love dresses and love expressing themselves in what we as a culture call feminine ways or really love expressing themselves in masculine ways. I think we trust that so easily when it lines up with our expectations. I've seen people be so charmed by a little girl who was just learning to walk and wants to twirl and twirl and twirl, but not as charmed necessarily by a boy who wants to do the same activity.

By two years of age, they're communicating awareness about their own gender. For some kids that can line up with their legal gender designation at birth, the identity we've assumed they are based on that moment, even from an ultrasound. For others, even as young as two years, they can be expressing either a gender-expansive identity, which means a sense of gender that isn't within that binary, or transgender identity. We also see them recognizing gender stereotypes at two years. We see them already holding those stereotypes, and in those early years, we can often see those stereotypes fit the culture and the biases they're experiencing in the world. Sometimes that will lead to them telling others who they can and can't be, and will also lead to them telling themselves who they can and can't be in order to line up with the world that's been presented to them.

This Ask the Expert is an edited excerpt from the course, Supporting Gender Diversity in Early Childhoodpresented by Flynn, N. and Nicholson, J.


nathanael flynn

Nathanael Flynn, MA

Nathanael Flynn has been a preschool teacher for over 15 years. He has a master's degree in early childhood education from Mills College and a teaching certificate from Froebel College at Roehampton University. He is a member of Gender Justice in Early Childhood, a collective of educators, researchers, therapists, academics, artists, and activists dedicated to supporting gender justice in early childhood through community-engaged scholarship, training, resource creation, and more. He co-authored Supporting Gender Diversity in Early Childhood Classrooms: A Practical Guide. Nathanael has also led camps that support trans and gender-expansive children, their siblings, and their families.


julie nicholson

Julie Nicholson, PhD

Julie Nicholson is Professor of Practice in the School of Education at Mills College where she has been a faculty member since 2005 and directed several innovative programs including the Leadership Program in Early Childhood, a Joint MBA/MA Educational Leadership Program, and the Center for Play Research. She is Co-Founder of the Center for Equity in Early Childhood Education. She has published over 30 peer-revised journal articles and is the lead author of 12 books, all addressing issues of social justice and equity in early childhood.


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